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Since stress is a function of two forces in opposition, we can reduce stress by changing the oppositional forces, or by changing our perspective on them. If a person is in rush hour traffic and traveling less than one mile per hour and worried about being home on time for dinner, the person is likely to be stressed out. If your younger son is habitually late to family functions and expect him to be on time, this will likely cause a stressful reaction. Unpredictable weather conditions such as those that occurred over the holidays in Europe, causing airports to shut down and strand travelers at airports cause stress for thousands of people. Does this sound stressful? You bet it does. How is it possible to reduce one’s stress under such dreadful circumstances?

Unemployment rates are higher than ever before. We now have to monitor our kids’ activities on Facebook. Divorce rates are at unprecedented levels. Families are losing their homes, having to move into grandma’s house, causing too many people living under the same roof. These can be very stressful events individually and yet many families today are experiencing a combination of these events simultaneously. Seems impossible to reduce stress when the world is caving in on you, right? Many of these dire circumstances are unavoidable, yet what very few people realize is that it is our response to these circumstances that serves to cause our stress rather than the situations in and of themselves.

One way to discover a way out of the chaos, the uncertainty, the unhappy marriages, the fighting between parents with kids who are rebellious, the financial turmoil, all these situations that many would say cause our stress. Reducing stress is more of a function of shifting mindsets than changing circumstance. Most of the stress is caused by fear. One definition of fear uses the word as an acronym: Future Events Already Realized. People usually jump into the future in their minds and imagine what they are afraid will happen. Then they take that anxiety and bring it into their present awareness. People often call this process being “stressed out.” Reducing stress is achieved by reducing worry and anxiety about an uncertain future.

One example is working with a family in which the father had expectations that his son should try out for the football team. The problem was that the son loved basketball and did not feel he was very good at football. The father, a very successful businessman and pillar in the community, felt that football was a sport that helped young men build character, loyalty, and other strong values. After all, it certainly helped him do so when he was a child.

These expectations produced a great amount of stress in the household. The father was continually frustrated, the mother encountered daily stress trying to mediate between the two, the son continually felt that he was never going to amount to anything. This family lived in a minefield of stress on a daily basis.

The main work focused on helping each family member understand the role they played in fostering stress at home. Helping the son learn how to communicate honestly with his dad and help the father learn how to listen. In addition, helping the mother learn how to stay out of the way between father and son and how to take better care of herself in the process.

The father was able to realize that all he wanted was to protect his son from some of the pain he grew up with. The mother recognized that she was falling into that same “peacekeeper” role she played (and felt helpless playing) as a young child. It caused stress way back then and was continuing to cause stress in her current life. The son was able to discover the impact of his behavioral reactions on his relationship with his mom and dad and on his own self-esteem.

Essentially, every member of this family has been able to appreciate the impact of their mindsets on their relationship to one another and the circumstances they face.

It is then learned that reducing stress will occur as you increase your practice. If you practice believing that the circumstances are causing the stress then one will get to be an expert at being stressed out. However as individuals practice changing their mindset about the situations that they face, they not only reduce their stress, but most importantly increase their well-being.

Starquest LLC enhances the lives of others by reducing stress, working with them to improve their collaboration skills, strengthening their communication abilities and to boost their overall performance in work, at home and on the go. They also specialize in conflict management and help people discover strengths they don’t know they possess or have yet to utilize in meaningful ways. Go to StarQuestLLC.com for more info!

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Neuroanatomist Jill Bolte Taylor had an opportunity few brain scientists would wish for: One morning, she realized she was having a massive stroke. As it happened — as she felt her brain functions slip away one by one, speech, movement, understanding — she studied and remembered every moment. This is a powerful story about how our brains define us and connect us to the world and to one another.

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Neuroanatomist Jill Bolte Taylor had an opportunity few brain scientists would wish for: One morning, she realized she was having a massive stroke. As it happened — as she felt her brain functions slip away one by one, speech, movement, understanding — she studied and remembered every moment. This is a powerful story about how our brains define us and connect us to the world and to one another.

I once had an out-of- body experience of my own when my body went into shock and my blood pressure plummeted from a medical procedure and when I was out of my body; I went to where I would have been if I wasn’t having the procedure. When I came to (after what was only a few seconds, but felt like an hour); it took a few minutes to get reoriented as to where I was.

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